The following is a list of places to check
information on abuse of all kinds. I have attempted to place an emphasis
on emotional abuse, simply because I was hard-pressed to find information
originally, and I wanted to gather what I could into one place. I have
also included a book list, as well as a couple of newsgroups that I have
found useful in recovery. As I mentioned, however, I am not a mental
health professional. I am a layperson who wanted to learn more about a
subject which directly concerned her, and I am providing this information
for laypeople who have the same idea. I am NOT a healer, nor am I
anyone's therapist, nor would I even presume to be.
Given those disclaimers, I hope the information here presented proves
For even more resources than I could possibly list here, go to a search
engine like Yahoo or AltaVista, and do a search using
keywords like "emotional abuse", "domestic abuse", or whatever topic you'd
like to learn about. There are countless webpages out there dedicated to
and run by survivors; there are even a number of webrings on the subject.
- Robert Ackerman, Perfect Daughters
- Susan Brownmiller, Against Our Will
- Timmen Cermak, A Time to Heal [Deals with ACOA issues]
- Beverly Engel, Divorcing a Parent
- Patricia Evans, Verbal Abuse: How to Recognize it and How to
- Patricia Evans, Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out
- Steven Farmer, Adult Children of Abusive Parents
- Susan Forward, Toxic Parents
- Harville Hendrix, Getting the Love You Want
- Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Anger
- Wendy Maltz, The Sexual Healing Journey [I highly recommend
this one to anyone healing from sexual abuse. It covers a detailed
program for how to reclaim your own sexuality. Very comprehensive and
- Jane Middleton-Moz, Shame and Guilt
- Alice Miller, For Your Own Good
- Robin Warshaw, I Never Called it Rape
Newsgroups I Have Found Useful
- alt.abuse.recovery -- a newsgroup for survivors of all
kinds of abuse: emotional, physical, sexual, and so on.
- alt.sexual.abuse.recovery -- a group for survivors of primarily
sexual abuse, although any survivor is welcome there. Make sure that you
read the FAQ and pay attention to netiquette when posting, however; the
subject matter is extremely difficult, and there are people at widely
varying stages of recovery who post there. Some of the stories and
accounts must be spoilered in order not to risk triggering people, and
are very hard to bear reading. But I have never encountered such a
remarkable group of survivors as the ones on ASAR.
- alt.recovery.adult-children -- a group for Adult Children of
Alcoholics, as well as adult children of other abusive parents. Sparsely
populated for awhile, but it has been growing recently.
- alt.recovery.codependency -- a group for recovering
There are also a variety of other groups; I don't recall all of them.
Some are in the alt. hierarchy, others are in the soc. hierarchy. You'll
have to check out all the groups to see what's available.
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